Couples that experience a “surprise” pregnancy often worry about how their future will be affected. There are many decisions to be made and everything can seem overwhelming. A lot of focused is placed on the mother-to-be, but you are just as important. Here are some quick tips that may help you right now.
* Stay Calm. She needs your support now more than ever. She may be carrying the baby, but you are BOTH parents. Regardless of your relationship in the future your son/daughter needs you too.
* Listen. Many times mothers just need to be heard and talk about their feelings. Listen to her, but remember the situation involves more than just you both. There are now three lives to think about.
* Talk about it. Talk about it, not only with each other, but prepare to talk with parents and others close to the situation. Hiding the news from people who can genuinely help you only increases the stress.
* Don’t Bail. The more you run from this, the harder it becomes to think and act clearly.
* Don’t Pressure Her. Applying pressure will only push her away, possibly into a regretful situation. You will do well to work together as a team.
* Don’t Forget. You have a very active role in this situation. Listen, as well as, give your thoughts.
Men and Abortion
It is hard to realize that women can choose abortion without the permission of the baby’s father. Many women who have had abortions report that they were waiting for their boyfriend/husband to stop them. Some even say that they sat on the table hoping the father of the baby would “rush through the door to rescue me and take me away somewhere safe”.
The world says that abortion is “a women’s choice” but a woman in an unexpected pregnancy rarely wants to make that choice alone. She is looking to you for support.
You are not Alone.
Men can feel just as scared and overwhelmed as women. They also need someone to listen. We are here for you too! Birthright of Prince Frederick is available to answer your questions and listen to your concerns in confidence. If we can help in any way, call us at 410-257-1402.